In a culture where marriage is considered sacred and even mandatory for a woman, and divorce is seen as a sign of failure, I’m beginning to love and celebrate my freedom of speech and expression. Now as a young desi woman, if you have been through separation or divorce, you certainly become a hot topic…
Shamina Auntie’s Advice on Marriage
Hello girls. I’m your local aunty Shamina. Today I’m here to give you some valuable advice on how to maintain a marriage. Believe me I have lots of experience on this as I’m always observing my nieces, neighbors and friends daughters and cousins and their relatives and I know how things work in marriages. You…
My Marital Status Don’t Define Me
After gaining a first hand experience and having many conversations with my circle, I want to share a small part of our conversation that triggered me into writing this blog post. One of my relatives said “I didn’t know that you were serious about getting a divorce. It shouldn’t be an option, our parents and…
Why are Desi Mothers Undervalued by their own family?
Why are Desi mothers so undervalued in their own family? If this question immediately reminds you of any woman that you know, please keep reading. What is true love? A desi mother is an epitome of true love and affection. Her world revolves around her husband and children. Qualified or unqualified, these mothers give up…
Can desi parents be toxic?
STOP STOP STOP!!! Shhhhhh..I know what you’re thinking. “My parents are not toxic, they love me, they care for me.” But hear me out, even the most loving, caring parents can have toxic traits. With all due respect for my desi parents, uncles and aunties, I feel the need to shed some light in this…
What is Life?
What is life Without struggles What is life Without failures What is life Without Setbacks What is life Without mistakes Take the chances Take the risks Make the mistakes Learn from it Without repeating it The good, bad and the joy Embrace them all For this is life!!
Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit
In the book Men Explain Things to Me, Solnit makes significant claims about women being raped and murdered by men. The book starts with simple yet a great example of “mansplaining” where Solnit have a conversation with this ignorant man who goes on about this great book that was published without realizing that he’s talking…
Is It Okay to Use Slang Terms that Degrades Women?
We are all familiar with the most popular words such as “bitch, slut or whore” which has common meaning. The history of the B- word dates back to 15th century which refers to a female dog. Merriam Webster dictionary defines the B-word as “a lewd or immoral woman, a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman.” This…
Who was Frederick Douglass?
Frederick Douglass was an abolitionist and a powerful human rights leader during the anti-slavery movement. Douglass was born into slavery around 1818 in Maryland. His mother died when he was ten years old. He lived with his maternal grandmother until he was chosen to live and work in the house of plantation owners. During the…
How to make peace with yourself as a daughter of immigrant?
Today I want to share with you guys about how I learned at 27, to finally let go of my need for approval from my immigrant parents. I told myself that it is not my job to convince them to understand my lifestyle or my choices. When I catch myself getting frustrated with my parents,…